Both intended parents and surrogate mothers should check several points before proceeding in their journey.
If you are thinking of being a surrogate mother in USA or in Canada, being well prepared is the key. This six-point checklist will help you to safeguard your surrogacy experience.
1 Determine if surrogacy is right for you
For Surrogate Mothers contemplating surrogacy, seriously consider all issues prior to making a decision to go ahead with a surrogacy arrangement. Being fit and healthy physically and mentally are key elements to becoming a surrogate. Also it´s important to have a support network (family and friends) around you to support and love you during the surrogacy journey.
2 Educate yourself
Before pursuing a surrogacy arrangement educate yourself with as much information as you can. There are many resources online and also it can be helpful to speak with others that have already experienced surrogacy.
3 Create a letter or profile about yourself
To help find an ideal match, it is best to create a letter or profile about yourself (and your partner). Describe yourself, your family and what you are looking for in a surrogacy relationship.
4 Your relationship with your intended parents
It is very important to meet your intended parents (and their family if possible) in person, unless you are utilizing an agency or a surrogacy professional that has some experience in screening candidates. E-mail or telephone communication may not always be accurate so it’s important to arrange a meeting before a making final decision.
It´s also good to think about what kind of relationship you would like with your intended parents and how much contact you would like to have with your intended parents during the pregnancy and after the birth.
5 Your legal position
Before you begin any medical procedures be sure to meet with a lawyer specializing in reproductive law to learn about your legal position and to have a surrogacy agreement in place. The legal aspects of surrogacy are different in each country, for example surrogacy in Canada must be altruistic however commercial surrogacy is legal in some US states.
Money, no one likes to talk about it but you will have some expenses during the pregnancy. It is important to make sure that the intended parents agree to cover all of your expenses before you become pregnant. If you do not have an agreement in place clearly stating who is paying for your medical procedures you could become liable for all these charges.
6 Time Frames
Sometimes, the intended parents may not be ready to begin their journey. Set up your time frames clearly before entering any surrogacy arrangement.
Surrogacy will change your life as well as that of the intended parents you help, so take a deep breath, remain patient and ensure you consider all the points of the 6-Point check list.